Spiritually, at the core, blame shifting surfaces when we forget the gospel and fail to apply it to our life. Here below is how blame shifting often manifests itself and how, when we apply the truth of gospel, it brings remedy and arrests our need to blame others.
- Complain: When I complain, I'm looking for sympathy when I suffer.The Gospel says that God identifies with me in my weakness and knows himself what it's like to suffer.
- Criticize: When I criticize, I have self-righteously set myself up as the judge of others, but my insight is skewed. I see the sin/mistake/character flaws of others, but I foolishly think I’m exempt. I'm self-deceived. The Gospel tells me that I am a sinner, and that I will not find a worse sinner out there. It was my sin that held him there, and I am often blind to my own sin.
- Defend: When I am defensive, I feel a need to explain myself or to get someone to understand me. Ultimately, I'm trying to justify myself. The Gospel says that I can be misunderstood. I don’t have to defend myself, because I can trust myself to "him who judges justly." Jesus is my advocate. He is the best defense attorney in the universe! I don’t have to justify myself, because I am justified in him.
(list from Christ City Memphis)