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Seven Reasons Very Active Church Members Drop Out



from Thom Rainer

  1. Moral failure. The most common scenario is a sexual affair. The member who was once revered becomes intensely embarrassed and ashamed, so much so that he or she cannot face the members and friends at church.
  2. Dropping out of a group. The church member stops his or her regular attendance in a small group or Sunday school class. It is almost inevitable that, without the accountability and fellowship a small group brings, that person is headed to be a complete church dropout.
  3. Burnout. The church member is asked to do many things because he or she tackles them with such passion and faithfulness. But some of these very active members don’t know how to say no. They burnout and leave church completely.
  4. Traumatic event. A painful loss or some similar pain can cause many church members to lean on fellow Christians even more. But some react in an opposite fashion and leave the fellowship.
  5. Dropping out of a ministry. The church member’s primary point of reference and connection with the church is a particular ministry. If he or she leaves that ministry (or in a few cases was asked to leave), it is not unusual for them to see no reason to continue with the church at all.
  6. Major interpersonal conflict. Marginal church members tend to drop out at the first hint of even minor interpersonal conflict. Very active members are more resilient, recognizing that no church members are perfect. But if the conflict becomes severe, some of the very active church members will leave as well.
  7. Gradual withdrawal. Most of the time a very active church member will drop out rather suddenly. But, on a few occasions, they just gradually withdraw from involvement in the church. These dropouts had trouble articulating to me why they left, or why they slowly withdrew from involvement. As one lady told me, “It’s like I woke up one morning, and I was no longer involved in the church.”

8 comments:

Spot on Bill, I have probably seen just about all of them. Several years ago while a Church Administrator I was shocked by #5. We met in a local school for two years during construction of our new building. We had a team of "Mountain Movers" that showed up each week at 6 AM and stayed for an hour and a 1/2 after service each week to set up and tear down all the staging, sound, nursery etc. They were a tight knit committed group. The day came and we were all excited to move to our new building. No more set up and tear down was needed. Within months just about all of the "Mountain Movers" were gone. They no longer felt they had a purpose.

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Bill, you miss many of the other major reasons people drop out of the church;


* The church becomes judgemental and dogmatic.
* The church is viewed as being anti-science.
* The church becomes overly involved in politics often adopting far right political views.
* The church engages in cult like behavior becoming insular and controlling.


All of the above move the church further away from Christ's teaching of forgiveness, acceptance and care of the poor and less fortunate.

thank you...they are definitely reasons too....too often the church is not a safe place....and that is not how it's suppose to be.

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