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How Can I Avoid Filler Words When I Speak?



Do you find yourself coming back to using certain repeated and "filler words" like um or er when you speak? If so, it can detract from the power and impact of your message. Below are some tips to help reduce those filler words when public speaking.

excerpted from Lifehacker

First: Relax
Let's start by saying: don't fret over this too much. The more stressed you get by it, the more anxious and nervous you're going to sound, which is really what we're trying to get away from in the first place. It's okay to let a few filler words slip out. After all, it's a natural part of speaking. No one's going to think less of you if you say "um" once in awhile. The goal is to avoid saying it every three words. 

Pause Before You Speak
If you're having a conversation or debate with someone and you jump in as soon as possible, you're probably going to use more filler words. Instead, pause to think out your next statement before you speak. You may need to become a bit more comfortable with silence, but it can help reduce those filler words. 

Slow Down
This goes along with the last tip, but it bears mention: don't be afraid to slow down a bit. If you talk too fast, you're likely to get a little tongue-tied, especially if you haven't quite figured out what you're going to say next. If your mouth moves faster than your brain, you're going to use a lot more filler words. If you slow down, you'll not only cut out the filler, but you'll be much more understandable, which is crucial if you're giving a speech or presentation.

Listen to Yourself
Next, set aside some time to listen to yourself talk and try to figure out where your filler words are most common. Some people recommend recording yourself, but it's hard to get an accurate view of your speech in such a controlled situation. Still, it may work for you. Others recommend putting a rubber band on your wrist and switching it every time you catch yourself saying "um." You could even have a friend listen to you and raise their hand every time they hear you stumble, which would help you catch on very quickly.

Practice, Practice, Practice
In the end, the old saying holds true: the best way to get there is practice, practice, practice. Practice that speech as much as possible before you give it. The better you know your speech, the more confident you'll be and the less you'll stumble. Remember, even in a speech, the occasional um isn't the worst thing in the world—it's how people naturally speak.

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